I must confess that starting again was personally difficult for me, I was trying to hang on to as much as I could hold. Starting over doesn’t mean patching your current situation and making it seem new. It means erasing the failures and gaining wisdom to move ahead. Lets use a race for example, imagine after the race begins, and other athletes are already running, you fell and you stayed down for long. Other athletes would have gone way ahead of you. Imagine picking yourself up after you fell down 3 years ago. It would seem like failing from the start, questions would fill your mind (Questions like what’s the point?). The greatest secret you should know is we are not all going to the same destination, we all have different finishing lines. Its time to get to yours, because life is a race. No one would wait for you just because you had to start again, or because you failed. You are “On Your Own” as many people would gladly remind you.
Many people are hanging on to the torture, grief, and sadness going on in their relationships just because they can’t imagine starting a relationship afresh with someone who is probably better than their current partners. Some of them console themselves with the quote “The devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know“. Many others have become laid back just because they were discouraged and disregarded on the path to their career achievements, some have given up on their dreams, because the realities are different from the fantasies they assumed. Only if they could start again, afresh, with a fresh zeal and vigour, with more wisdom from their previous struggles. They’ll be better.
I love what Mark Twain said:
“We should be careful to get out of an experience only the wisdom that is in it – and stop there; lest we be like the cat that sits down on a hot stove lid. She will never sit down on a hot stove-lid again – and that is well; but also she will never sit down on a cold one anymore.”
We must only get wisdom from our experiences and not let our experiences blind us.
During my struggles I heard the Holy Spirit point out a popular story to me. The story of Job. Job was the very wealthy man whose faith and commitment to God was be tested by devil, with Gods permission. And he lost everything he had, his 10 children, his flocks, and businesses, all he was left with was his wife, and with boils all over his body. Let’s use scriptures to briefly tell his story.
There was a man named Job who lived in the country of Uz. He was a good, honest man. He respected God and refused to do evil. Job had seven sons and three daughters. He owned 7000 sheep, 3000 camels, 1000 oxen, and 500 female donkeys. He had many servants. He was the richest man in the east. – Job 1:1-3
The Lord said to Satan, “All right, do whatever you want with anything that he has, but don’t hurt Job himself.” – Job 1:12
A messenger came to Job and said, “We were plowing the fields with the oxen and the donkeys were eating grass nearby, when some Sabeans attacked us and took your animals! They killed the other servants. I am the only one who escaped to come and tell you the news!” That messenger was still speaking when another one came in and said, “A bolt of lightning struck your sheep and servants and burned them up. I am the only one who escaped to come and tell you the news!” That messenger was still speaking when another one came in and said, “The Chaldeans sent out three raiding parties that attacked us and took the camels! They killed the other servants. I am the only one who escaped to come and tell you the news!” That messenger was still speaking when another one came in and said, “Your sons and daughters were eating and drinking wine at the oldest brother’s house. A strong wind suddenly came in from across the desert and blew the house down. It fell on your sons and daughters, and they are all dead. I am the only one who escaped to come and tell you the news!” – Job 1:14-19
So Satan left the meeting with the Lord and gave Job painful sores all over his body, from the bottom of his feet to the top of his head. Job sat on the pile of ashes where he was mourning and used a piece of broken pottery to scrape his sores. His wife said to him, “Are you still holding on to your faith? Why don’t you just curse God and die!” – Job 2:7-9
Job’s three friends heard about all the bad things that happened to him, so Eliphaz came from Teman, Bildad from Shuah, and Zophar from Naamah. They met together and went to comfort Job and show him their sympathy. But his friends didn’t even recognize him when they first saw him in the distance! They began to cry loudly. They tore their clothes and threw dirt in the air over their heads to show how sad they were. Then they sat on the ground with Job for seven days and seven nights. They didn’t say a word, because they saw he was in so much pain. – Job 2:11-13
Then Job opened his mouth and cursed the day he was born. He said, “I wish the day I was born would be lost forever. I wish the night they said, ‘It’s a boy!’ had never happened. Job 3:1-3
Job prayed for his friends, and the Lord made Job successful again. The Lord gave him twice as much as he had before. Then all his brothers and sisters and all the people who knew him before came to his house. They all ate a big meal with him. They comforted him and were sorry that the Lord had brought him so much trouble. Each person gave Job a piece of silver and a gold ring. The Lord blessed Job with even more than he had in the beginning. Job got 14,000 sheep, 6000 camels, 2000 oxen, and 1000 female donkeys. He also got seven sons and three daughters. He named the first daughter Jemimah and the second daughter Keziah. He named the third daughter Keren Happuch. Job’s daughters were among the most beautiful women in all the country. And, like their brothers, they each got a share of their father’s property. So Job lived for 140 years more. He lived to see his children, his grandchildren, his great-grandchildren, and his great-great-grandchildren. Job lived to be a very old man who had lived a good, long life. – Job 42:10-17
So we can all clearly see that Job moved from being the most wealthy man to the poorest man in the land. After he settled with God, the Bible says he was restored. He had greater possessions than he previously had before the disaster that hit him. The latter end of his life was then greater than the former. He previously had 7000 sheep, he now had 14000, his 3000 camels became 6000, his 1000 oxen became 2000, and his 500 female donkeys became 1000. He practically got double of all he lost. He even got back the same number of children he lost. His daughters were the most beautiful in the land. Talk of a greater inheritance and a better end!
The Holy Spirit then asked me a perspective changing question. He asked, “Do I give already grown children to people? Do I give already flourishing businesses for them to manage??” I had to think about that for a while. He then said, “Job had to start again. He had to start child bearing again. His wife after having kids, started giving birth again, she wasn’t young, after previously bearing 10 children. She had another 10 more. Job had to start from few sheep, donkeys and oxen again. It was like living 2 lives in one lifetime. The thing that stands out is the fact that he didn’t stop where he was, he gained so much more than he did before his loss.” Isn’t that so true? Those few words changed my perspective to a lot in my life. Thank God for the Holy Spirit.
Its the season that you need to believe God, that when you start again, you won’t just do well, but you’ll accomplish far more than you’ve ever done in times past. God gave Job 140 more years to accomplish more. Regardless of how things go, never be afraid to start again. Have people given up on you? Have friends left you? They did the same to Job. Some friends are there for the good times. When things get better for you, they’ll probably just apologize for leaving. Don’t let anyone put you down, keep on pursuing purpose.
This message transcends to all levels and to different situations, think about what area of your life this message refers to, and make a decision. I feel God tugging my heart to tell you to “start again”. Put your series of pain and disappointments behind you. Its never too late, it’ll end up better than it previously was only when you start again! And if you have started already, don’t give up, keep on! It would all be worth it at the end. Have a great day!
“Brothers and sisters, I know that I still have a long way to go. But there is one thing I do: I forget what is in the past and try as hard as I can to reach the goal before me.” – Philippians 3:13
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