I was chatting with a female friend recently, it was pretty interesting. There was a guy that was trying to go through the process of making her his girlfriend. She mentioned to me over and over again that the guy was pretty cool. But of course, pretty cool isn’t what sustains a relationship. As their conversations got deeper, the line of discussion moved to religion, which is a subject that had not been previously discussed. My friend told the guy that she is believer, lover and follower of Jesus Christ. The guy on the other hand believed in another god, and had other religious practices.
My lady friend told him point blank that she cannot be in a relationship with him for his religious beliefs, for starters. And the guy began to rant and say a lot of things, he then said “I didn’t know in this 21st century that people still choose religion over great personalities.” Clearly my friend was having none of the cool story. She made him know clearly that it was her preference. Oh well, we know how the story goes, chats start reducing, until the guy gets pretty invisible in her network. Sad isn’t it? I don’t think so.
I don’t believe critical issues like religion should be toyed with. I believe in fact, that it really counts. Truth be told, most broken marriages have been between people that had similar religious beliefs and they didn’t even survive. What is a great personality without the great God that made the person, and made him capable of having a great personality? It becomes a great waste at the end of the day. Very few marriages between people of different religious beliefs are blossoming with fulfilment, love and contentment after 20 or 30 years of marriage. We are not making a reference to those who are staying in their marriages because of their kids. We are speaking of true happy marriages!
One thing that is certain is this:
“There are only 2 deities being served in the world today. Regardless of the number of gods that seemingly exist, or that people worship. They are Jesus Christ (the one true and only way to the Father) and the devil (the fallen angel who is perverting everything the true God ever created). I’m sorry if I have to be this blunt with you, but any one who isn’t truly serving Jesus Christ, is a servant of the devil, and hell is his or her portion. Think of any other religion or stance other people have apart from Christianity like Atheism, Islam, Judaism and many more. Yep, all of them are the many means through which the Devil draws many to himself. But God is less of a gambler. He sent just one man to die and restore us back to himself. He sent Jesus.
Back to the matter! Jesus Christ is the people changer. I know ladies love the ‘I can fix him’ therapy. But the One who can truly turn a mans life around is God. He changed mine, so I know. I’d rather have a woman whose character is just developing and is dedicated to serving God and obeying his word, than one with a great personality and a wrong religion. That’s simply because whoever is truly committed to God would only continue a continual process of trying to be like Jesus. But who is a person serving Satan going to look like? Think about it. Have you ever wondered how difficult raising kids will be? Even couples with different dialects have issues training the kids to understand both languages. Whose religion would you prefer your kids have, your own or your spouse’s own? I believe it’s yours you’ll prefer. That on its own is a cause for fights and quarrels in a marriage.
I have seen ladies who felt good by the prospect of a man becoming a Christian because they wanted to be in a relationship with him. You hear sentences like “I converted him to Christianity, I made him a Christian and so now we can date”. Meanwhile it was simply a game excellently executed by the guy to get into their pants.. Hehe.. Some ladies to do this to guys as well.
“There is no witnessing of the gospel that needs to be done to an unbeliever that will require a relationship with them first rather than a friendship“
Be wise. Don’t leave your eyes open while they are closed to the truth. Relationships matter a lot. God won’t stop you from having children just because you married a wrong person. Even if you don’t, you are stuck with that person for life. Am I saying everyone in the body of Christ is perfect? No! Open your eyes ‘well well’ my brothers, hmmm, ladies of nowadays are good actresses o. Don’t be led away by the beautiful voice she uses in church or by that figure that good food will make change. Take your time to know her in and out, it’s the very little things that count o. Not her smile or her always constant pose in her photos.
Ladies, same to you! Men know their ways, when you see a guy that knows his beans and his presentation and style is almost perfect, watch out! Hehe, you could just be his next specimen. Know what you want. Don’t end up with the guy you’ve never wanted packaged in the guy you always wanted!
Let me end with the statement popularly used to make this point, but in another light:
Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you
make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership;
that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with
the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God’s holy Temple? But that is exactly what we are, each of us a temple in whom God lives. God himself put it this way:
“I’ll live in them, move into them;
I’ll be their God and they’ll be my people.
So leave the corruption and compromise;
leave it for good,” says God.
“Don’t link up with those who will pollute you. I want you all for myself. I’ll be a Father to you; you’ll be sons and daughters to me.”
The Word of the Master, God.
1 Corinthians 6:14-18
The prospect of marriage is better among true believers than unbelievers. Find someone with a great personality and believes in the same God you believe in, someone whose practices and beliefs are the same as yours. Spending time with God together will sharpen and shape you both to enjoy life together successfully, since you have the same master.
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