Well, I don’t know about you but I think with the way many marriages aren’t working these days and with how social media has helped to amplify the state of things, it is time to take some drastic action as regarding marriage. I also think it is time to ask those really important questions that no one is willing to ask and get answers to them as well.
Many people are even getting more fearful of the institution of marriage and those who aren’t afraid, are simply believing that theirs would be better? What’s the proof of that? I’m not trying to be pessimistic here but for most marriages, the couple never really planned for it not to work. No one ever plans to have a fantastic wedding as people call it and fail in marriage when it arrives.
In the midst of all these negative news that is taking over the media and also the fear gripping the hearts of many, it is important to note that there are marriages that are thriving so well. Interestingly, they would rather not put themselves out there so that they won’t become targets. Trust me, most of the kinds of news that is amplified on the media (whether social media, the news or the radio) are mostly negative. You knowing this will help you be more conscious of looking out for the positive kind of news that encourages what you want for yourself.
But really, what will you be doing differently with your marriage? If you are currently single or in a relationship, what are your moves apart from dreaming of the Wedding Day? What steps are you taking? Your answer means a lot. And since this particular post is about what I must do to have a good foundation for my marriage, I should get to it before you think too much.
I have decided that the way to go is not to go all out to seek for a stranger whose father I don’t know. I have seen the instances of people who decided to start over with new people that had an entirely different kind of training and it didn’t end up well. It’s better to be safe than sorry don’t you think? I think so too.
Fortunately for me, my father has daughters, I really just have to pick the right one to get married to. Yeah, I know your complaints, but hear me out, we are in the 21st century aren’t we? We should be able to do whatever we think is right? (That seems to be the mindset these days). If you look in the scriptures too, you’ll find out that there is no way the multiplication mandate of mankind could have happened if brothers didn’t have to marry sisters.
Now I won’t say I am the first person to think or practice this, but based on the fact that I have actually seen this work and is proven to be a solution to a lasting marriage is why I have chosen that I MUST marry my sister. And I advise that if you are a lady reading this, you should get married to your brother as well.
Having the same training and upbringing is so important, and having a father who is there to keep you accountable and loves you both is so important. A father is much more elderly, has gone through life and also has a lot of wisdom. It is easier for siblings to listen to the words of their father than for you to try to get a stranger to even understand the working of things in your family, talk of to believe what your father says. We are talking of what works here and not what you are accustomed to.
So I am willing to explore this option and not be casual about my marriage. I don’t want to experience the ins and outs severally as others have. (This isn’t to put anyone down at all, but statistics and figures show that quite a number of marriages aren’t working).
You may be asking yourself if the Victory you know has stopped being a true believer in Jesus or your question may be where in scriptures I can back up my beliefs without teaching heresy. I’ll try to see if that’s possible. Let me see.. Great, here’s one:
“Pray then in this way. ‘Our Father who is in heaven. Hallowed be Your name'”
Hmmmn.. Something happens to every believer who has received Jesus into their lives, God becomes their father. The moment they did that, they became a part of a bigger family than their nuclear or extended family. A big family in Christ, United is what they joined.
“You are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus, for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. ”
Galatians 3:26, NIV.
Okay? So how does this scripture have to do with anything? Well, how we read and interpret scriptures matter. How would a woman read this scripture? Since we are all sons of God, does it mean women aren’t accepted? Of course not. The word ‘son’ actually means both males and females. We can clearly say it with our knowledge through scripture that we are all sons and daughters of God through our faith in Jesus Christ.
Since we have now become a part of God’s family and God is our father, we now have a BIG family of believers and we are all brothers and sisters in the faith. We have one thing in common now, the blood of Jesus unites us and is the blood running through our veins.
I am not trying to get married to my blood sister born of my earthly father, of course not. Paul gave a piece of interesting advice to Timothy, he said:
Treat older women as you would your mother, *and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters.*
1 Timothy 5:2 NLT
Why would he say Timothy should treat them as his sisters? It’s actually because they are his sisters. He is saying if you are struggling with knowing how to treat the saved ladies, using the picture of your earthly sisters would help. (Story for another day)
This would then lead us to know the importance of marrying from the same family, someone from the household of faith. Now, in our days, many people claim to be believers and to be born again, the truth is not everyone is! The earlier we get this the better for us. There’s a lot of faith that only stays at face value, there is no depth and no evidence of the experience of the Holy Spirit as regarding when old things become new.
I am saying that even if you are seeing someone that is good looking in church, and that you are attracted to, do your in-depth research both spiritually and physically. Be watchful for the signs that are just a facade, the pretenders are getting better at this. Not everyone takes Jesus as their Lord, not everyone is hungry for God and want His will for their life as a priority.
You MUST be sure that this one is trained by your father; God, and is willing to keep learning at His feet daily and isn’t filled with plans and ambitions with no eternal relevance. For you and for me, it’s a no-no to those who aren’t our brothers and sisters. We are not going to be unequally yoked with unbelievers and expect that it’ll all be perfect. This is also why working on yourself to have a higher desire for the things of God and for your spiritual muscles to be exercised that you are more discerning also matters.
Going out of your way to marry an unbeliever while Christ is the center of your life means you are willing to put God’s place in your life in one corner. You will be with someone who will truly never understand the kind of new life you live, your passions or putting God first. There would be conflicts with making decisions, many fleshly judgments would be made on how you live and even how your kids are raised. Don’t walk into something the Bible warns against with your eyes open. If you are in a hurry, please wait, don’t just settle, I won’t settle either.
Well, there goes why I MUST marry my sister. Many people have married their sister or their brothers in Christ and they are doing great today because they are daily receiving instructions and revelations from their heavenly Father on how to wade through the problems of this life. Nothing can stop them from fulfilling his will for them. If you want that testimony too, you know what to do… Pick the right brother or sister to marry! 😀
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