Before you cover one eye and use the other one to read this article, let’s talk. There is nothing to be shy and ashamed about, this sex thing is everywhere. If you look online and on TV, you’ll find many adverts have a theme of sexuality to them in order to get products or services sold. Not to talk of movies or TV series that have scenes of intense kissing and passionate scenes of lovemaking.
If you don’t know what I am talking about, or if you just came out of a cave, you can close this post right here. Hehe. But you and I know the REAL truth, and it’s unavoidable, there’s a sexual vibe all over the place.
Even if you act like you are not interested, which is okay, especially if you are single. There are all these reminders around.
It could be your colleagues at the office dropping those sexual updates of their body count or what they did to the other person in bed the other day. Not to talk of the songs that sound so sexual, like some artists are clearly trying to sing sex.
I was in a neutral environment recently, and the DJ decided to bless us with popular songs. Gosh! I felt so uncomfortable, these songs were all about sex. There were moans and groans in the songs and I was thinking to myself, “why not play a sex tape instead?” Sorry, but if you put those kinds of songs on replay as you go to bed daily, soon enough there’ll be someone in your bed, literally!
But this post is really not about the means of how sexual vibes are being passed these days. We are speaking about something more internal and personal to you. It almost feels like a secret to everyone, and it should rightfully be.
What are you going to do about these sexual urges pent up inside you? What am I going to do about these sexual urges pent up inside me?
These feelings are natural and we didn’t plant them by ourselves. God made these hormones and we know what they need. We also know that it could turn one’s head upside down. The things we see around us are external triggers for what we already have inside. And if no one is going to get real with you about this, you can trust that I will.
Now, we can only be having this discussion if you are not sleeping around 😒 Or oh well, maybe you are and you know it is wrong and you want to stop. You may feel like a tank waiting to explode and that’s why you’ve been moving from bed to bed. Or maybe you gave up on love too. Your situation may be that you have never experienced control, and you don’t even know what it’s like.
I want you to know that the sexual urges that you feel are totally okay and normal. You are not a child anymore for Pete’s sake. What did you expect was going to happen to you as you grew older? For the sexual vibes to die down. Naah. At least not now in this phase where the dragon in you wants out of the cage. I feel this way too and anyone who says they’ve never felt this way before is either lying or has a special grace from above (which obviously is very uncommon).
Of course, the easiest advice will be for you to get married. We know how getting married is not a very easy process these days. The real question is “what happens before I get married?”
Where do we place these married folks that are out of their matrimonial beds and are sleeping around? They still have these urges too.
Well, have you tried something different like actually talking to God about your sexual urges?
Eeeeh, don’t get all spiritual on God right now, we are not allowing that. 😒
You are probably thinking to yourself “I have never used the word ‘sex‘ in a prayer or discussion with God before”.
All the over-spiritual folks that are saying they want to sanctify their sex before sexing it, abeg shift. We are talking real stuff here.
God is the creator of sex, so he knows every single detail about it, more than you will ever do. So being shy to talk about it with Him is like being shy about explaining a feature of the iPhone to the manufacturer. Duuh, He made it. If you probably did deeper research you’ll find out that you don’t know enough.
So there’s nothing bad saying this when next you feel that crazy urge in you:
“Lord, I really feel like having sex right now. You won’t believe it but it’s actually crazy.
All these hormones you put in me want a sexual expression and release. I really don’t want to sin, please help me keep it under control.
Please make those plans for me to have a right setting to let all this out (Marriage) come to pass because I love you and I really don’t want to hurt you by sinning against you. But until then I will do your will”
I bet you have most likely never prayed a prayer like that before 😜 Well there is a first time for everything.
Depending on the situation, the prayer could even be like:
“Daddy God, with the way things are going with Alex, I am getting scared. I feel like I have let my guard down and he is creeping in on me. Please help my thoughts, the way I see him is in such a sexual manner. We are not meant to be alone, but whenever we are, my imaginations run wild. I need the strength to bring up my boundaries again, and to stay away from him. I feel like it could hurt his feelings because he really likes me, but I need to do what is right, or else I’ll do what I won’t be proud of”
Prayers like this are allowed my people, get God on the scene!
Are you aware that as a Christian the Holy Spirit lives inside of you? It’s interesting that many of us still see God as the BIG man upstairs that sees us as we see ants.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but the BIG man now lives inside of you! Hehe, so all your moves, your mistakes, your failures, and even disappointments are not outside of Him. He is right there with you when you are doing EVERYthing (Emphasis mine😉).
Here is what happens when you say prayers like the one I just mentioned. Grace is made available for you to make it through.
Now that we know what we have—Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God—let’s not let it slip through our fingers. We don’t have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He’s been through weakness and testing, experienced it all—all but the sin. So let’s walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help.
Heb 4:14-16 (MSG)
Remember when Paul had a thorn in his flesh and he asked God to take it away?, God said “My grace is sufficient for you.” That grace is not one that disappoints you, it actually strengthens you and shields you from your weakness. Don’t run away from God in these moments.
If you listen to some of my conversations with God, you won’t believe it 😂 Some real raw conversations fam. Get real with your God! He understands, and He will make a way for you.
Addictions, repetitive mistakes, inability to control and put under these triggers that get you hooked sexually cease today! From now, you’ll experience freedom.
Get strength from God’s word and in the place of prayer. There is surely a way out.
This is worth a try don’t you think? It would be surely worth your while.
If you made it to the end, you are a real gee. Most people don’t like to comment on posts like this because everyone tries to run away from sexual talks. But I’ll appreciate a comment from you too on what you think or would love to add. It could also be what has worked for you. Please share with people around you too, they need this.
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